I chose ten things people say a lot and are wrong. Though I have touched on some of these in the past, I wanted them all in one post. Enjoy.
1. “Everything happens for a reason.”
No, it doesn’t. I guess technically, yes. But when people say this, they are not speaking about biology or physics. They have something more cosmic in mind. God killed that little girl with leukemia to … why did he do that? The thinking tends to go one of two ways: (1) God is mysterious and we’ll never know, and (2) maybe God was teaching us a lesson. Both are juvenile.
2. “Those people have been fighting for thousands of years.”
This is what many people reflexively say about the Middle East. I guess it’s supposed to make one sound deep and sophisticated. They are neither. The tensions and violence in the Middle East are a modern phenomenon. Much of it has to do with European and US manipulation. And how many Arab states are at war with one another? Zero.
3. “There’s no black and white, just shades of gray.”
This is part of “the truth is in the middle” nonsense. There are Democrats and there are Republicans—and the truth is in the middle? The halfway point between wrong and wrong is wrong. CNN and Fox? The halfway point between crap news and crap news is crap news. Sometimes things are black and white.
4. “Possession is nine-tenths of the law.”
This is not a law. This is not anything. Yet, people love to say it. Again, it’s supposed to make them sound deep and sophisticated. There is a similar principle in ancient Roman law; and early Scotland comes up a lot. But if I steal your watch, and then I wear that watch, it is not automatically my watch.
5. “America is a republic, not a democracy.”
[sigh] I hear this one a lot. A republic is a form of government where representatives govern for the citizenry. A democracy is a form of government where the power of governance resides with the people—with the demos, meaning “people.” The United States is best characterized as a democratic republic. The either-or is misleading. When I hear this, it’s like the person expects dramatic music to accompany their announcement. More depth and sophistication.
6. “Colonialism improved Africa (etc.).”
It. did. not. Colonialism spelled hardship, death, and misery for millions of people—and not just in Africa. The European powers deployed soldiers, projected economic power, killed, and tortured people. In the Belgian Congo alone, as many as ten million dead. All the while, the colonized were spoken of as animals. Read Aime Cesaire or Frantz Fanon. Read something, just stop saying this.
7. “Religion started all the major wars.”
Even the wars that were explicitly about or inspired by religion—the Crusades, the Wars of Religion—were about power politics. I struggle to think of a war that was a legitimate theological dispute. This piece of nonsense is a way of condemning religion; it would be better if people condemned ignorance instead.
8. “If you love your freedom, thank a vet.”
I have family who are vets. This one is not about the military. I have defended the military for years and how they have been mistreated time and again. The United States has been attacked twice in its history: (1) in 1814 by the British and (2) 2001 by al-Qaida. We spend about a trillion dollars a year on defense for what exactly? And the “thank a vet” message has more to do with Lockheed Martin and less to do with the rank and file.
9. “The Bible has been translated so many times.”
Wrong-o. The Bible has been translated once maybe twice. It was written in Greek, Aramaic, and ancient Hebrew. It was then translated into Latin. Then it was translated into English using the original languages and the Latin translations. So, once and in some cases twice. How many people were involved in its writing? Now that’s a lot.
10. “Tomatoes are a fruit.”
They are vegetables. Not fruit. “Fruits” and “vegetables” are culinary concepts. Biologists and botanists do not deal in fruits and vegetables. Plus, cucumbers, zucchini, pumpkins, bell peppers, okra, and egg plants are all fruit?? And strawberries are not?
Josie Long is an English comic of some renown. This is a 2013 show she did entitled “Cara Josephine.”
The show is charming, very funny, and delightfully odd. I take in a lot of stand-up, but this one is remarkable. No one is doing what Long did in this show. I believe she’s still at it—and if she ever comes to Chicago, I will be going. I hope the club has handicap access.
People have asked me on numerous occasions: “Greg, do you think you’ll ever get married?”
I have two stock replies to this question:
Stock answer #1: “No.”
Stock answer #2: “Why on earth would I do that to myself? The number of times I have seen a married couple and thought to myself ‘That looks nice; I feel like I’m missing out’ is zero. Most times I shudder and think ‘Better you than me.’ The horror."
However, if I ever crossed paths with someone like Josie Long, y’know ... I’d consider it.
I gotta say, I look pretty snazzy in my new plum suit. I sent this photo to some close peeps, and my father’s wife—who maintains it’s aubergine, not plum—responded to the photo with an egg plant emoji. “Oh dear.” I then urged her son (my step-brother) to explain to her what an egg plant emoji means. Hilarity ensued.
This series by the Guardian, “Gaza: A Week in the Life,” is a heartrending portrait of life right now in the Gaza Strip. The series now features three Gazans and what their days are like.
We forget that this is happening. That these people are suffering badly. And that this savagery was all committed with US authorization. Biden and Trump should spend the rest of their lives in orange jumpsuits; they both allowed these crimes to happen.
Moreover, most Americans are not in support of it. The vast majority of Americans are supposedly concerned about civilian deaths and starvation in Gaza. But I do not detect any concern in my personal experiences with people in general. I just don’t feel any at all.
Our presidents have authorized the leveling of an occupied territory housing over 2 million people. Israeli operations since the Hamas attacks in Oct. 2023 have claimed the lives of over 70,000 Gazans. According to the United Nations Information Service in Geneva, “Gaza ha[s] become home to the largest group of child amputees in modern history….” Meanwhile, Americans post their vacation photos on Facebook.
I have posted here some photos of kids I met in Gaza in 2002. They are adults now, and I shudder to think how many are dead—or their children.
Note: That's me in the Mediterranean with a bunch of jokers. Why I am standing like that we will never know.
https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/series/gaza--a-week-in-the-life
This track, “The Fletcher Memorial Home,” is off Pink Floyd’s post-Wall
album, The Final Cut.
I find this song haunting. I have not heard it for a long while. When I listened to it today, it got me thinking about Swiss philosopher Jean-Jacques Rousseau (1712-1778). Now, if I’m honest, this doesn’t require much. I think about Rousseau often. But there it is. I almost teared up listening to Roger Waters’s voice. There’s such delicious contempt and desperation in it.
Specifically, I thought about Rousseau’s conclusion regarding modernity. Rousseau argued that humanity had done itself an immense disservice. We lived in relative peace and tranquility in the “state of nature.” And I think he was right. As foragers or hunter-gatherers we were healthier, stronger, ate better, and did not suffer a list of diseases introduced by modernity: many cancers, obesity, heart disease, etc.
We also brought back alpha males. We allowed ourselves to be lorded over by men who had their own priorities. These tribal chiefs, emperors, kings, sultans, and pharaohs became heads of state. They became prime ministers, presidents, dictators. And they started wars. A lot of wars.
Just keeping to the early twentieth century, and just keeping to wars (not including colonialism and imperialism, etc.):
The Boxer Rebellion, the Boer War, the Russo-Japanese War, the Mexican Revolution, the First and Second Balkan Wars, World War I, the Armenian Genocide, the Russian Revolution, the Russian Civil War, the Irish War of Independence, the Chinese Civil War, the Second Italo-Abyssinian War, the Spanish Civil War, World War II.
Humanity brought this on itself. None of this would have happened.
And I also got thinking about American ignorance, and what it has allowed. Korea, Vietnam, various acts of savagery in the Middle East. US foreign policy has depended on the population being out to lunch, so it could carry out its programs (Cold War, etc.) all over the globe. The body count is incalculable. The fear, pain, and suffering staggering.
I agree with Rousseau there is no going back. We must forge ahead. But it is worth knowing all this. It is worth bringing these thoughts to the voting booth. Because we keep committing the same errors. At the very least, Bill Clinton and everyone after him should die in prison for war crimes.
And we the voting citizenry should feel shame and remorse for having given them that job. I relish when Trump supporters aver, “He promised no foreign wars!” How smart they must feel now.
How smart we all must feel.
This post would get more likes if I posted a picture of a cupcake.
Um, just so we're clear, what is "gender ideology"? And who is this left wing?
[sigh] I guess I'll repost this:
June 12, 2026
I have heard on many (many) occasions over the course of my life, folks say things like this about homosexuality: “They can do whatever they want, just keep it away from me.”
This is brainless.
As a hetero, White, cis-male, I have little business speaking on these matters. All I’m doing here is clarifying terms. Much of the mistreatment, hate, and ignorance of the LGBTQ community comes from people who fit into my demographic. This makes it my problem.
This is not about being PC. It’s about being C—and a better human being.
Twenty points:
1. Most of those “folks” mentioned above are Baby Boomers. Few of them will read this. They’re too busy knowing everything.
2. Being gay is not a choice.
3. Neither is eye color.
4. If you’re heterosexual, you did not choose to be attracted to the opposite sex.
5. Therefore, “they” are not doing “what they want.”
6. And do gay people really want YOU on the team anyway?
7. I have had gay friends, and have spent my fair share of time in gay bars. Number of people who tried to recruit me: zero.
8. Gender is a social construct. It is not related to sexual orientation.
9. People are assigned a “sex” at birth based on one’s anatomy.
10. What we consider ”masculine” or “boyish” is something humans made up. Likewise, for “feminine” and “girly.”
11. There is nothing inherently “male” about trucks. Or cars. Or mud. Or blue. Or pipes & cigars. Or guns. Or grilling.
12. Trans people commonly feel they do not fall anywhere in this polarity: male or female. Or they identify with the other gender. The former are called “non-binary” (or “gender neutral”), whereas the latter are simply “trans.” Some are “gender fluid” and float between the two
13. Again, this is not a lifestyle choice. This is part of how the person feels and how they view themselves. No one is going to “make you trans” any more than they’re going to “make you gay.”
14. “Queer” used to be a slur. Now it’s a badge of honor and a term indicating political defiance, e.g., “gender queer.” You do not have to use it. It’s probably better if you don’t. I don’t.
15. “Hetero-normative” is the cultural dominance of heterosexuality. Like, being straight is normal and being gay is something else, e.g., “homosexual sex.”
16. “Intersex” people are those born with a wide variety of differences in their reproductive anatomy. “Hermaphrodite” is an outmoded term.
17. Oh yeah, LGBTQ is an acronym for “lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer.” It often features a plus sign after it indicating the numerous orientations and gender identities out there.
18. Gallup reports 9 percent of Americans are LGBTQ.
19. The term “sexual preference” is stupid.
20. My pronouns are: break up/the/banks. I also use universal/health/care. And sometimes I use lower/income/inequality. I state this not to diminish the concept of identity; I just tire of academics and intellectuals fixating on the smaller problems instead of the larger ones. They prefer cosmetic alterations.
https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2026/sep/07/hhs-report-trans-support-authoritarianism#img-1
Do not be distracted by the Democratic Socialism business. AOC is as much a socialist as Bernie, which is to say, she is not. Neither of them are. They’re centrist politicians whose positions track with the majority of Americans.
I know America prefers her presidents male, White, and rich, and who cater to the class they come from. But having someone on Pennsylvania Avenue who is for things like Medicare for all would be nice, no?
I’m not distracted by tokenism. It would be nice to have a female Puerto Rican-American in the White House, for sure. But I do not think being this or that has inherent value. One can be White and rich and be an excellent executive. Likewise, one can be Black and be an awful human being (talking about you, Clarence and Condoleezza). That said, AOC would indeed bring a breath of fresh air to the position.
As for her politics, anyone who has read this blog for a few minutes knows that what gets branded as “progressive” in this country is not. There is nothing progressive about everyone having healthcare. Nothing. Most of the developed world has universal healthcare. Borrowing from German chancellor Otto von Bismarck is progressive?
Into the bargain, she is for workers’ rights—including a $15 federal minimum wage—poverty reduction, and sound policy on the environment. She also has a reasonable approach to immigration, but this is not a priority item for me; concern is generally racist and ultra-nationalist. I advocate for open borders, but I’m not so naive as to think this will catch on anytime soon.
We have already tried a president who makes sexual remarks about his daughter, ridicules people with disabilities, and talks about women like they’re property. Don’t get me wrong: I do not think for one second criticizing Trump is a political position. Medicare for all is a political position. It’s high time Americans voted their interests and not the interests of people who wouldn’t wipe their shoes on them.
Do I think AOC has a chance? That is entirely up to us.
https://www.theguardian.com/news/ng-interactive/2026/aug/15/will-aoc-run-for-president
Howard Zinn was a national treasure. He was a historian who wrote the immensely popular A People’s History of the United States. When I read it years ago, it took me a long time, because I kept giving my copy away: “Here, you really need to read this!”
I’m not sure how many copies I went through, but it was a few. And it’s that good. It is American history told from the positions of the slaves, from the factory worker, from those who suffered racist policy.
Some might roll their eyes and assume this is just a bunch of leftist mumbo-jumbo. It is not; it is careful scholarship. The version of history we are accustomed to is told from the perspective of power. Many Americans know we lost 58,000 service personnel in Vietnam; most do not know, or even consider the fact, that Vietnam lost 2-3 million people.
Yes, change has occurred. We have rethought Christopher Columbus. But most of our thinking is oriented toward power. An educated population is a threat. Therefore a palatable version of the country’s history is presented in the classroom. Is this a conspiracy? Teachers are presenting sanitized versions of the history under the watchful eye of secret police? No.
It starts when we’re children. A certain way of thinking is absorbed by children. This thinking was provided them by adults. Why do you think America got “sucked into” Vietnam? Because that is what was drilled into your head. Because we do not want to think of our country committing crimes. And that is the issue.
We conflate the population with the machinery of state. We look at the flag, thinking “I am America.” Children in droning unity, hands over hearts, say the pledge of allegiance every morning. “[W]ith liberty and justice for all.”
“I am America.” The flag means “me.” If the flag does something bad, I did something bad. If the flag kills innocent people, I killed innocent people. “And I’ll be damned if someone’s gonna accuse me of bad things. I am a good person! And therefore American must be good!”
Tribal thinking runs deep in American culture. If people get angry about police brutality? The Thin-Blue Line flags come out, saying “Leave White people alone!” If gay people, who have been treated like dirt for forever, have a pride parade? We begin seeing straight-pride parades cropping up. Black Lives Matter? All Lives Matter.
Why cannot people get on the side of those being abused and oppressed and killed? Why does the switch get flipped to a tribal reaction? “No one criticizes White people!” The thinking here is “I am White, I must be the one being criticized.” “I don’t have privilege!”
Zinn even goes through the history of how the power elite saw common cause being found between Black slaves and White indentured servants. Can’t have that. Solidarity? That had to be prevented. And it was. Many racist concepts used by White people today can trace their genesis to this chapter in America’s past.
Reading Zinn’s book can, dare I say, help encourage you to become a better person. We all need to be better people.
Why do I get the feeling someone just read that and thought, “I don’t!”
https://www.theguardian.com/books/2026/aug/06/howard-zinn-the-peoples-historian-book
This keeps coming up lately. I continue to bump into the subject of intelligence and IQ. In personal conversation, in shows I am watching, etc.
I wrote this essay last year and wanted to share it again (see below).
As I tell my students, IQ is three inches on a twelve-inch ruler. It generally means you’re good at math, chess, standardized tests, and so on. There is then intellectual intelligence. This means you can read Plato and have something to say about it; you can navigate concepts and come up with insights.
There are other types of intelligence, such as moral intelligence. One can have more than one. For instance, one can have a high IQ and a high moral intelligence.
This is not a case where everyone gets a trophy. Intelligence is biological. Some people are tall. Some people are strong. Some people are good looking. And some people are “smart.” Some people are not tall. Some are not good looking. Take my meaning?
But do not despair: Everyone is good at something. All have talents and abilities, and some things just come easy.
IQ is not the measure of intelligence. It is a measure of intelligence. In this culture, if you do well on the SAT, you’re smart. Congratulations! Those clowns in MENSA would love to have you. The rest of us are dummies? [wrong-answer buzzer]
And I find this interesting: What makes one smart is the ability to excel at what is presently being pushed. STEM has basically become a religion. So, to be able to excel at STEM-related subjects is to be smart. What those hippies are doing in the English Department? Poetry has no value, biochemistry does. Therefore, it’s concluded that an aptitude for biochemistry = smart. An aptitude for reading poetry and producing incisive analysis = not smart.
This culture has interesting priorities.
https://www.gregoryharms.com/essays-20251121
And with my extensive experience has come a few observations. I thought I’d share a few (four) etiquette suggestions to help maybe make this difficult experience smoother, easier, and more refined.
1. Please put on a collared shirt and maybe iron it. I know Americans are not fussy about clothing and appearance, but when there’s a dead body in the room, perhaps dial it up a notch. I have seen people at wakes who looked like they were going to a beach party. Make an effort, FFS.
2. Keep the line moving. You’re not there to tell your life story. You’re not at a cocktail party. Share your sadness and move along to paying your respects. This is why you’re there. The world does not revolve around you. And chances are, your conversation is vapid anyway, because you’re trying to be either entertaining or deep. You’re likely neither.
3. Don’t try to be deep. You’re probably not. Please, do not say things like “Everything happens for a reason.” It does not. There is nothing cosmic or preordained about the person being deceased. Does God kill people because he’s bored? I rather doubt it. Of course, some will say “God works in mysterious ways.” When I hear this, I think of Roman statesman Cicero: “Mystery is the wisdom of blockheads.” Just say your sorry, that you feel bad, and keep the line moving.
4. Do not start talking about the person you just lost. The day belongs to the family and the bereaved. No one wants to hear “We just lost my aunt.” Nobody—in that context—cares. Again, just say you’re sorry, that you feel bad, and keep the line moving.